I entered this blog post last night, but I’m not sure why it’s not showing up in the feed. Here it is anyway, for anyone interested in reading it… There is Something About Mary .
Then you’ll understand the rest of this post.
Mary’s mom finally made contact, after 3 weeks or not calling and not showing up to meetings, visits, and sessions. Her excuse? She has been having a hard time getting off from work, and her phone was broken…for 3 weeks. I’m the type of person that gives everyone the benefit of the doubt, but this sounds a little fishy to us. The case worker text me yesterday asking if it was alright for her to switch her visit from Thursday at 3:30 to Wednesday at 3:30 since she was able to clear out some stuff on her schedule and it was imperative that she speak to us as soon as she could as she had FINALLY received an email from Mary’s mom. Unfortunately, I was at work, but Callie was home and was able to see her, and boy was she ever pissed!
According to her, there are lots of things that she will tolerate. Not communicating with the case workers is one that is a non-negotiable. Mary’s mom gave her a ton of excuses as to why she wasn’t able to call, or email, or find any way to communicate with any of the workers or therapists. I don’t think the case worker was buying it, at all. She spoke to Callie for a while about feeling like the inconsistency has gone on long enough, and that she feels mostly bad for Mary, who doesn’t deserve to be lied to every week about her mother’s whereabouts. That Mary is going through a ton of transitions right now, and the last thing she needs is her mother’s absence. That she will officially be starting Termination of Parental Rights paperwork(TPR’s) this week. In the next few months we will know if Mary will become permanent in our home and has found her forever family who loves her dearly, or if she will be dragged through the foster care system a little longer in hopes that her mom gets it together. Either way, in NY state, if a child is in care for 15 out of 22 months, unless the judge orders some sort of stipulation or appeal, a child will automatically get a TPR. Looks like we just might have some adoption paperwork to fill out in our near future. We are scared, nervous, excited, worried about the rug being pulled out from under us, and feeling a bit overwhelmed. We want what’s best for Mary in the end. Let’s see how this plays out in court in April. We have our fingers crossed for our little Mary.